Have you ever just sat back and thought about the people that you associate yourself with? Have you ever had that feeling that you’ve known someone for a very long time but feel as though your connection is starting to dwindle away. Have you ever had new people enter your life and you feel as though you’ve known them forever?
I think it’s pertinent to take the time to figure out if those that you associate with are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. There comes a time in life when certain people you’ve associated yourself with may no longer be good for your future goals and sometimes the friendships just end for no reason at all. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a certain period of time…some friends you may outgrow..some friends may be more stagnant than you and at that point, you have to evaluate if the friendship is really worth being dragged out or if its okay to cut ties prior to huge falling out. There are some instances where people do a lot of good and help you in a time of need..however, we must remember that too doesn’t mean they will be around forever. I have always been told that in life you will have a select few people that will actually be your friend for a lifetime. You will find someone who is a true friend. A person who is there to tell you things that you don’t want to hear..that person who pushes you in the right direction. That person who encourages you to be the best version of yourself. Sit back and think about the types of people that you associate with and make the necessary changes that you need to be the best version of you. Can you count on both hands how many people are “lifetime” friends? I bet you cant. Most people don’t have a ton that are real “lifetime” friends. We tend to have more seasonal friends and friends that are around for a reason. I challenge you to take some time and read and internalize this poem below and categorize which types of friends you have and ways you can obtain those lifetime friends. It may mean cutting out some people or even making changes withing oneself. I personally will be taking some time out to really evaluate the people that i associate with and remove those that are hindering me from the best version of myself.
THE BEST VERSION OF YOU..STARTS WITH YOU AND THE CHOICES THAT YOU MAKE…ONLY YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DO AND DO NOT NEED IN YOUR LIFE!!!!
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away, Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.